Okay. So… I have been thinking about this topic for quite some time. I am not currently in a relationship; but, I have had one dismantled by social media. I was starting my junior year at Southern Illinois University—Carbondale when I noticed a mutual high school and Facebook friend of my at-the-time boyfriend post photos to her profile. I ended up catching a glimpse of him cheating on me with his best friend. Because of that, I have continued to view public character as skeptical when he/she is at the end of their social media paint brush.
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Relationships, when taken seriously, involve trusting the other individual, right? When we love someone, we tend to give more than our all and compromise to make each other happy. Besides sharing the pages of our private lives, we now have electronically drafted versions that share the pages of our public lives. These social media platforms make it easier for disillusionment to happen–even if a relationship is built on trust; everyone is made susceptible to electronic tricks. And, relationships that are built on scandal can, sometimes, outlast those being courting in the black and white imagery of reality. One of the main reasons I was prompted to write this blog was because of a story about Alan O’Neill. He was caught in a lie by Facebook’s friend suggestion. He was previously married and never got divorced before being remarried to another woman.
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To a certain extent, Facebook has become the Joey Greco of relationships. So, what do you do when the only thing that seems honest is social media? On the opposite side of the pendulum, nosey partners use social networking as a way to poke and prod into a life that temporarily excludes a significant other. I believe in privacy and that it is measured by what eyes are allotted and by how much of that is true. Some people have public profiles that mirror nothing similar to their lifestyle; but, if you choose to lead a virtually naked life, you have to take the good with the bad. One thing we need to ask ourselves is the following. Is it okay to segregate ourselves from our partners on social networking sites to keep the peace–the love–in relationships? Or, should everything be public. Let me know how your answer.
What about people like me? Ever since that incident at my undergraduate university, I willingly opt to live in darkness; and, I choose not to let partners follow every social move on electronic stages because I do not believe they deserve every facet of my computerized being. I believe everyone deserves privacy. The only problem is that the very definition is so marred that public, electronic privacy is starting to resemble an unorganized, Woodstock concert.